Someone once said, “Pain & suffering are inevitable; misery is optional.” ‘Tis true, methinks (unless you’re suffering from kidney stones when misery is a sure thing.)
Still, misery can be a choice. Which means not being miserable is also a choice.
Sometimes a bit of suffering enters our lives & disrupts things a little. Other times, WHAM, suffering grinds us into bits. Whether it’s physical pain, heart pain, life pain – pain, is, well, PAIN.
It hurts. A lot.
Take physical pain, something with which your humble blogger is (unfortunately) well acquainted. Falling down a flight of stairs in university (back injury for life), falling up a flight of stairs on the first day of new job as a 20-something, fracturing both ankles (multiple times), dislocating a knee (out dancing), breaking a collar bone, undergoing neck-fusion surgery for misbehaving discs (NERVE PAIN!), knee surgery (and on & on) + multiple kidney stones episodes (Virginia’s internal manufacturing plant did not get the memo to cease production!) And, the newest challenge the past four months: Plantar Fasciitis (in both feet!) I am not a pain weenie (see previous list) but this has been painful.
foot torture physical therapy sessions, trying to do what helps the pain (not much.) Even after blissful ice-numbing propping ups, feet are still needed to move – ME – from one place to another.
Which causes THE PAIN (again.)
Physical pain tends to make me grumpy. I pray extra hard for the grace to cope & not mope (must Be Nice to the Savvy Saints – my parents – even as I hobble to help them.) Still, battling the grumps is also a choice. (There’s also the challenge of tireditis, as pain grinds our bodies, minds & spirits down.)
OK, so physical pain is HARD, but methinks even more excruciatingly challenging is Heart Pain: when our love is truly trampled, our dreams dashed to dust, or we suffer the loss of dear loved ones. When love is gone & life seems empty (an emptiness that keeps on breaking our hearts…)
Then there’s that despair inducing life pain from Detours, Disappointments and Dead Ends. When heart grumbles jumble our minds with ‘what if’s?’ ‘why me?’ ‘why this?’ ‘why now?’
Pain. Suffering. Misery. It happens.
…So, misery is optional, how exactly?
1st- Whatever our pain, we can look around. Beauty may not take our pain away, but it can certainly lift our spirits.
2nd – We can lighten up. Laughter may not be the cure for what ails us, but it sure can ease the grumps & make our pain load a bit lighter.
3rd- We can let go & let God do something new in us. Through us. Fill the empty places of our hearts & lives with grace (lots) & love (lots) & mercy (lots.) Let our pain draw us closer to God.
4th – We can let our hurting hearts listen: Thump. Thump. Thump. Particularly today when we commemorate the Sacred Heart of Jesus, hear His Heart expand for us:
Love. Love. Love.
That special healing kind, that transforms the dark nights of our hearts & minds into brightest day. The kind that blossoms love ANEW. Hope ANEW. Even, joy ANEW.
In this life, pain & suffering are inevitable, but misery – it’s a choice (especially not being miserable.)
It’s not easy – with body aches, heart aches, life aches.
But… possible, if we let the love of God touch us in all our achey-places.
grace, peace & pain management
Virginia : )